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Each of us is unique and perceives the world in a distinctive way. Each of us represents a happy life in a distinctive way. Although we are each unique, there is a common aspiration that unites us all in our quest to build a life. We all want to be happy.
We create happiness in our life at every moment. And we are a consumer, an architect, a designer, an engineer and a builder. Our children also create happiness. If we want happiness for our children, we need to teach them how to build it.
The short excerpt of my fairy tale “Little Snowflake” > from the “Happy Home” > series also about it 🙂
Fluffy Cloud peeped into her pocket and saw her, the last little snowflake. “How could I have missed you?” White Cloud exclaimed in surprise.
It was a big pocket. The last Little Snowflake was quietly sitting in the very corner of it, completely still.
Fluffy Cloud glanced down on the Earth, and asked, “Why are you still here? Why are you hiding in my pocket?”
Fluffy Cloud looked down again and added, “All your friends have already floated down to Earth, but you didn’t go with them. Why not?”
The last Little Snowflake pressed herself against Fluffy Cloud’s big pocket and said quietly, “I like it here. I don’t want to go!”
Fluffy Cloud swayed in the sky and said with a smile, “Everyone has a time when he needs to go. Your time is now.”
“I’m just a little snowflake! How can I do anything?” Little Snowflake asked. Looking around, she sighed, “It’s so big out there, and I’m so small.”
“Yes, you are small but you can” carefully opening her pocket wider, Fluffy Cloud laughed. “Look at our Earth! From small deeds, large deeds come.”
Nature & feelings . . .
Everything that we create is a reflection of our inner World. Our best creations are made with Love, Joy, Gratitude, and Inspirations. When we look at our inner world, we also can see Love, Joy, Gratitude, Inspiration . . . These emotions will always illuminate and warm us inside . . .
There are moments of our life when we forget our own value. It seems that our inner world is cold and dark. However, if we pause and listen to our heart, we will hear the soft gentle voice of Love, Joy, Gratitude, and Inspiration and see the bright light that shines from these emotions. We just need to pause for a moment and listen to our heart . . . How can we teach children to do it? We just can do it together . . .
When we look around, we can see that Nature reminds us to listen to our heart as it displays beauty and harmony. Birds singing, leaves rustling, flowers displaying brightly, warm rays of the sun warmly embracing . . .
It is at this moment we can see the unity between the beauty of the world in us and around us . . . And then the boundaries between our inner and outer world disappear and we begin to see as one whole the unified beauty and uniqueness of the world in an all around . . .
This is our Happy Home!
The short excerpt of my fairy tale “Bluebell’s song”> from the “Happy Home” series also about it 🙂
As the music finished he quietly said, “Thank you very much! It is so beautiful! May I listen to more of your songs, please?”
“Yes of course!” answered Bluebell happily and sang again. “Ding-dong! Dee-dong-dong!”
The sun was smiling affectionately in the blue sky. Bluebell continued to chime and his wonderfully gentle melody created joy for all on Earth.
Happiness for children
We, parents, want to see our children successful and happy. It is best when we can teach and provide our children with tools so they can create their own happiness in life. To do so, it is so important to pay attention to feelings . . . Why are feelings so important?
We comprehend the World through our senses. We can hear, see, touch, taste, and smell. These five channels are how our conscious interacts with the World.
Our feelings, the complex interaction of our senses, form emotions that create who we are and our uniqueness. However, even though we are uniquely different based on our emotions, each of us is formed from a common foundation. The best feelings create wonderful emotions, such as joy, inspiration, gratitude, and love . . .
If we want to create our best emotional self, we need to nurture ourselves with the best feelings. It is like colors. To create a wonderful painting, we need to have vibrant, varied and beautiful colors on our palette. What can we create if we only have a small selection of dark colors? The best emotions come from a rich pallet of feelings. Emotions create the basis of thoughts, thoughts determine our actions and our actions drive results. We create the foundation of Happiness in our life from the first step–feelings.
Feeling–Emotion–Thinking–Action–Result* . . .
Nature gives us the template to develop feelings. Sunrise, the color of butterfly wings, the sound of rain, the singing of birds, the rustle of leaves, the smell of the sea, the fragrance of flowers, the taste of orange honey, the warm rays of the sun on our face. If a child perceives the World with all their senses and develops feelings of warmth and wonder, then our child will mirror the bright, warm, broad and wonderfully talented World. Our child will then have the foundation to create similar positive results for a happy life.
We, parents, can teach our children to see our wonderful World in all its diversity and use nature to teach them to choose the best feelings for themselves. Feeling-emotion-thought-action-result . . . What a wonderful gift for children, teach them how to be happy!
Everyone creates at every moment of time . . . We can create our best . . .
Nature always gives us a wonderful example of creativity through its own continuous development and improvement. This is the evolutionary process that is the basis for the development of life on Earth.
Our creativity is the driver for continuous development and improvement. Family and children’s creativity are so important because when we pay attention to it, we develop our desire for improvement.
When we combine creativity with Nature, we create the basis for harmonious development. Nature in our world is the most wonderful example of harmony. This is a very foundational and important topic and I will continually return to it on the page Notebook >
All my books, paintings, and creativity classes always support the value of Creativity being one with Nature. Now I want to draw attention to another important idea . . .
From the manuscript “How can I find happiness for my Child?” © >
Positive emotions derived from creativity develop freedom in ourselves and open the amazing potential and talent that is in each of us. . .
To be happy, It is essential to learn how to create. Sometimes, as we go about our daily activities, we don’t notice that we are gradually becoming robots. We become re-active and habit based. By adding a little more creative practice to our life… It can be a painting, a design from natural materials, a toy, a cake, a dinner . . . we break our habits and invite creativity into our lives.
Creativity gives wonderful emotions, such as joy, gratitude, inspiration, love. . .
Feelings – Emotions – Thinking – Actions – Result*.
At the same time, positive creativity can’t be measured for how accurate it is or judged for composition, forms, or any other objective criteria. It can only be measured by the happiness in your heart.
We can only give what we have. . . When we create more happiness and harmony in our heart through creativity, we are presenting a wonderful gift to ourselves, to our family and to everyone we interact with.
Creativity is a special language of communication, which is understandable to everyone. Creativity is an especially important language for the development and strengthening of family relations. Everything that is created together, by parents and children or grandparents and grandchildren, always has a special place in the family. Home decorations, gifts, toys and much more, created with their own hands together with their parents is of great emotional value.
Creativity creates an excellent foundation for happiness in the family. When children grow up, they will continue to value creativity as a tradition in their families.
About Fairy Tales
“Where do fairy tales live?” Children have asked me this question many times. “They live in the same place where we all live. We have one common House, our Earth.” I answer and ask, “What do you think?”
I have heard many answers that have amazed me at the depth of understanding and continue to teach me the value of childhood . . . “Fairy tales live near us, we just need to listen carefully to hear them. I hear them, and they are very beautiful!” This answer from a 4 ½ year old boy. “Where do you listen to them?” I ask him. He answered by placing his hand on the left side of his chest. “It is here ” . . .
Those wonderful words continue to inspire me to create fairy tales for families and to communicate the role fairy tales in our life. I write more about this subject on page “Notebook” >
Now I want to share with you a selection from my book “Magic Fairy Tale for children & parents”©) >
We create our own happiness in our life by choosing what we feel . . . When we understand and consciously choose our best feelings, we create our own Emotional Happiness. It is the foundation of a harmonious and happy life.
Feelings – Emotions – Thinking – Actions – Result*.
How can fairy tales support our best feeling and why do I create them?
Fairy tales give us an awareness of the possibilities. The breadth of these possibilities is created because in a fairy tale there is magic.
My Fairy tales help to develop a palette of our best feelings by interacting with nature to create the basis for our best emotions.
Fairytale heroes help teach our children to create and consciously choose their best feelings and emotions. My heroes model how better outcomes occur when positive feelings are chosen.
Fairy tales help to develop a pro-active position in life: I can always improve what has happened to me and I can always find a way out of my difficult situation.
Fairy tales develop a ‘master’s’ position promoting leadership qualities. All that I have in life is the result of my choice. I always have the right to choose and I can always choose to be happy.
Fairy tales show the strength and importance of moral qualities such as kindness, gratitude, generosity, love, the ability to create, believe in yourself and follow dreams. These are the qualities that your child needs for the foundation of a successful and happy personality.
About Happy Habits
Every day we do many things that are common actions. We often call them habits.
How about adding or developing a few new habits that can bring more happiness and success to our lives?
On this page, I want to share some examples. Some of these habits have been my assistants for a long time and some I am still developing. These habits help to make life brighter, filled with positive emotions and create a good basis for happiness. So here are my 7 “Happy Habits”!
- Positivism and gratitude
You can always see the world multi-colored, even on a gray rainy day. The habit-forming question is “What am I feeling now? How can I find the best colors in a gray situation?” I have written more about feelings on the page “Nature & feelings”> For now I just want to say, “Choose for yourself the best feelings and emotions!” Feelings – Emotions – Thinking – Actions – Result*. F – E – T – A – R* Gratitude supports us. How do we feel when we ask ourselves “What can I be grateful in my life? What can I be grateful right now?” And give yourself time to feel the answer with your heart. . .
- Self-management and dignity
I can’t change the situation that others have created. I can only change my attitude and my actions. The habit-forming question is “How do I feel? What do I need to do to keep the peace in my heart? What do I need to do to maintain a peaceful space for communication?” We can be supported by our virtue. If we are aware of our dignity, we do not need to prove it to others. And when we are aware of our dignity, we will see it in others and we will respect it in each and every person. Just ask the question every day, “What am I proud about myself today?”
- Proactive and resourceful thinking
Knowledge must always be acted upon. I do the best I can do. Remember, actions always speak louder than words. The habit-forming question is “How can I do it better? What resources do I have and how can I use them?” Even if the answer is “Nothing!” This is also a resource. . . We can always ask someone about what we need to know. . . If we ask questions, we will always find an answer.
- Self-improvement and creativity
Everything can always be improved. If you don’t like something, you can improve it. Nature is constantly developing and creatively changing. The law of evolution also operates in all spheres of our life. To create the best, we need to learn how to create. There is more about creativity on the page “Creativity”>. Find the best and turn it into a habit . . . The question to form this habit is “What should I add for my best life?”
- Balance and self-regulation
If you have too many sentences in your life that begin with “I must”, think about how you can replace “I must” with “I want.” For example. “I must clean up my home.” Instead, consider . . . “I want to clean up my home.” If we feel tired or irritated, it means that the balance in our life has been disturbed. We can always restore our balance by asking “What do I want?” …And give ourselves the space and time to listen to what our heart is saying. . .
More about balance in various areas of life, and about tools for maintaining it, on the “Training and Coaching” page >.
- Openness and ability to listen to other people
These are your communication skills and the ability to understand people. It is also the ability to see and support opportunities for ourselves and for other people. We can not see the world in its entirety through the keyhole in a door. . . By only looking through a keyhole, you won’t be successful and happy. We live among people, and everything that we do is an interaction with them. And besides, if we are interested in people and their lives, they will be interested in us. . . To “get”, we must first “give”. . . The habit-forming question “What did I learn about someone today, their situation, their life and their dreams?“
- Dream and faith in your strength
Dreams are the navigator of our life. When we know what we want, it’s much easier to find our way. When it’s dark – find stars. . . Our dreams help us see the stars. A dream helps us to prioritize. If we have a dream, we can see the dreams of others. It’s easier for people to understand us if they know what we want. People are attracted to follow those who know where they are going. . . People value those who value their dreams. The habit-forming question is “What is my dream? What did I do today for my dream? How did I support the dreams of other people?”
So 7 Happy Habits 🙂
• Positivism and gratitude
• Self-management and dignity
• Proactive and resource thinking
• Cultivation and creativity
• Balance and self-regulation
• Openness and ability to listen to other people
• Dream and faith in your strength
Why do I call these habits, “Happy Habits?”
Because they help us see the beauty of the world around us and in ourselves, the uniqueness of each of us and the wisdom and beauty of life. . . They help create the best feelings and emotions to develop thinking and actions that create the best results. . . And . . . When we create a harmonious world, we help other people create such a world, because “I can only share what I have”. Our world around us reflects our inner world. . . It is worth learning how to create the best in our world and teach our children this. . .
I continue to learn and develop “Happy Habits”. Why? Because I continue to develop. . . because life and happiness are not a destination, it is a “way”. . . I support my family in this “way” and I am happy to share my experiences with you!
We create everything in our Life. This is the beauty of life and it is our responsibility. We cannot do this for our children, but we can teach them how to create their “Happy Habits”. Our example will have a much greater influence on our children than our words.
About Colors . . .
We live in an amazing colorful World . . . When we close our eyes, pause and then open them, we can deeply feel . . . We see an amazing variety of colors, shades, and vibrancy in a wonderful variety of subtle combinations. Each color carries its own energy. Scientists, from different branches, study this phenomenon. Artists intuitively give great attention to color as they create.
Color helps create emotional balance. We use it in our homes, offices, and our clothing. When we create a positive world around us, we create the same world in ourselves. This pro-active effort affects our success and happiness. Feelings – Emotions – Thinking – Actions – Result*
If the sun is limited or everyday worries are mounting, try adding bright positive colors to your life. It can be curtains on the windows, a throw on a couch, a painting, dishes or something else. Color will give you energy from just a smile to great joy in your heart. Clean, bright colors such as red, orange, yellow, green, blue, purple, and their various shades will create a wide range of amplitude and frequency waves that have positive health effects.
We can’t re-paint a bright blue sky on a cloudy day, but we can add a favorite color to the space in which we live . . . And when we create a harmonious space around ourselves, we start noticing that harmony exists in everything . . . Instead of focusing only on the gray sky, gray houses and color of the road, we can pay attention to the green grass that grows near and a barely noticeable shade of pink in the gray sky . . .
Nature helps us see the harmony and beauty of our colorful World. All her colors help everyone to see the uniqueness and beauty of our world in ourselves and in every one of us. Just close your eyes, pause, and open . . .
With love Olga Verasen