Happy Habits


Every day we do many things that are common actions. We often call them habits.
How about adding or developing a few new habits that can bring more happiness and success to our lives?

On this page, I want to share some examples. Some of these habits have been my assistants for a long time and some I am still developing. These habits help to make life brighter, filled with positive emotions and create a good basis for happiness. So here are my 7 “Happy Habits”!

Positivism and gratitude 
You can always see the world multi-colored, even on a gray rainy day. The habit-forming question is “What am I feeling now? How can I find the best colors in a gray situation?” I have written more about feelings on the page “Nature & feelings”> For now I just want to say, “Choose for yourself the best feelings and emotions!” Feelings – Emotions – Thinking – Actions – Result. F – E – T – A – R* Gratitude supports us. How do we feel when we ask ourselves “What can I be grateful in my life? What can I be grateful right now?” And give yourself time to feel the answer with your heart. . .

Self-management and dignity
I can’t change the situation that others have created. I can only change my attitude and my actions. The habit-forming question is “How do I feel? What do I need to do to keep the peace in my heart? What do I need to do to maintain a peaceful space for communication?” We can be supported by our virtue. If we are aware of our dignity, we do not need to prove it to others. And when we are aware of our dignity, we will see it in others and we will respect it in each and every person. Just ask the question every day, “What am I proud about myself today?”

Proactive and resourceful thinking 
Knowledge must always be acted upon. I do the best I can do. Remember, actions always speak louder than words. The habit-forming question is “How can I do it better? What resources do I have and how can I use them?” Even if the answer is “Nothing!” This is also a resource. . . We can always ask someone about what we need to know. . . If we ask questions, we will always find an answer.

Self-improvement and creativity
Everything can always be improved. If you don’t like something, you can improve it. Nature is constantly developing and creatively changing. The law of evolution also operates in all spheres of our life. To create the best, we need to learn how to create. There is more about creativity on the page “Creativity”>. Find the best and turn it into a habit . . . The question to form this habit is “What should I add for my best life?”

Balance and self-regulation 
If you have too many sentences in your life that begin with “I must”, think about how you can replace “I must” with “I want.” For example. “I must clean up my home.” Instead, consider . . . “I want to clean up my home.” If we feel tired or irritated, it means that the balance in our life has been disturbed. We can always restore our balance by asking “What do I want?” …And give ourselves the space and time to listen to what our heart is saying. . .
More about balance in various areas of life, and about tools for maintaining it, on the “Training and Coaching” page >.

Openness and ability to listen to other people
These are your communication skills and the ability to understand people. It is also the ability to see and support opportunities for ourselves and for other people. We can not see the world in its entirety through the keyhole in a door. . . By only looking through a keyhole, you won’t be successful and happy. We live among people, and everything that we do is an interaction with them. And besides, if we are interested in people and their lives, they will be interested in us. . . To “get”, we must first “give”. . . The habit-forming question “What did I learn about someone today, their situation, their life and their dreams?“

Dream and faith in your strength 
Dreams are the navigator of our life. When we know what we want, it’s much easier to find our way. When it’s dark – find stars. . . Our dreams help us see the stars. A dream helps us to prioritize. If we have a dream, we can see the dreams of others. It’s easier for people to understand us if they know what we want. People are attracted to follow those who know where they are going. . . People value those who value their dreams. The habit-forming question is “What is my dream? What did I do today for my dream? How did I support the dreams of other people?”

So 7 Happy Habits

• Positivism and gratitude
• Self-management and dignity
• Proactive and resource thinking
• Cultivation and creativity
• Balance and self-regulation
• Openness and ability to listen to other people
• Dream and faith in your strength

Why do I call these habits, “Happy Habits?”
Because they help us see the beauty of the world around us and in ourselves, the uniqueness of each of us and the wisdom and beauty of life. . . They help create the best feelings and emotions to develop thinking and actions that create the best results. . . And . . . When we create a harmonious world, we help other people create such a world, because “I can only share what I have”. Our world around us reflects our inner world. . . It is worth learning how to create the best in our world and teach our children this. . .

I continue to learn and develop “Happy Habits”. Why? Because I continue to develop. . .  because life and happiness are not a destination, it is a “way”. . . I support my family in this “way” and I am happy to share my experiences with you!

We create everything in our Life. This is the beauty of life and it is our responsibility. We cannot do this for our children, but we can teach them how to create their “Happy Habits”. Our example will have a much greater influence on our children than our words. 

(from the manuscript “How I can find Happiness for my child?”©)

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With love Olga Verasen

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